Asking in public and getting a 'No' can be really disappointing
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From Cinemas halls to NYSC passing out parades, to church services, concerts, events, in the middle of traffic, malls and just pretty much everywhere you can get the most attention.
Public,
attention-grabbing proposals are not criminal and there’s absolutely
nothing wrong in going down that route if that’s the way you choose to
roll.
What’s only worrying is the seeming
pressure that gets mounted on to say yes in these instances. Pressure
which, in my most sincere opinion, is undue and totally unnecessary.
At the time of writing this piece, there’s a clip causing some debate on social media. In the clip, a certain guy gets on a bent knee at the mall to propose to his babe in the presence of her friends and the girl just walks away from him and the extended ring without saying a word.
It
turns out, according to a post later put on Instagram by the lady, that
the guy is allegedly a serial cheat who has slept with her friend and
her friend’s younger sister.
While there’s the question of why she’s still with him despite being unhappy and disturbed by his actions, it’s commendable, admirable, and something that every woman needs to aspire to.
What she did - choosing to walk away from that guy due to doubts created by his character flaws - is the best thing to do.
When
a guy chooses to propose when you are yet unready for that level of
commitment or you’re yet not comfortable enough to take that leap with
him, more women need to learn to say an emphatic no!
It
does not matter where he did it – in church, at your family
get-together, in class, at the airport, anywhere – you need to walk
away.
Obviously, it is easier to say no when it’s just the two of you at his apartment when he proposes. When it is in public places, it appears that it is slightly more difficult to say no.
Most women think of
all the people present, all the flashing cameras and the huge
embarrassment it’d cause to to say no in such instance.
But
the fear of embarrassing him in the presence of people should not deter
you from saying no. Those flashing cameras should not hold you force
you to say yes.
See, any guy who feels comfortable enough to propose to you in public should be presumed ready for the worst.
If a marriage that lasts a lifetime and brings you happiness and peace of mind is what you crave, you cannot allow something as superficial as a public proposal lead you away from it.
Even if you choose to say
no because you’ve expressly said it in the past that you hate public
proposals, please go ahead and do it.
If
it’ll rob you of your joy and peace of mind, then don’t do it. It does
not matter who’s there or not, just shake your head and walk away.
That
lady at the mall appears to have done the smart and wise thing for
herself by walking away from that proposal and more women need to be
like her.
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